16 Feb

“Life is a Journey with problems to solve, lessons to learn, but most of all, experience to enjoy.”

My dad passed away in a horrific car accident on November 2002 in which he caused.

That’s when my life changed!

I  knew very young that life was not going to be easy, and that I was going to have my challenges along the way.  I was not a great student, was not overly smart, did not have a creative talent.  Knew that if I wanted anything in life I would have to work hard for it.

journeyBy November 2002 I had a wonderful husband and a beautiful little girl.  That day when the phone rang and I got the message that my father passed away it was the worst day of my life.  It wasn’t that I did not expect it.  He was an alcoholic and I knew that death was just a step away for him.  What hit me so hard was how he died.   Not only did he pass away he also caused someone’s death because of his addiction.

The effects of this incident have stayed with me for many years and made me evaluate my own life.  It’s made me think how precious life really is and how short it can be.  When we are young we think that we have our whole lives to do anything we want, that we have time.   We let fear and  insecurities stop us from pursuing what we have always dreamed of doing.  We talk about our dreams, but we never make that first step toward them.  We make excuses why we can’t pursue them.

November 2002 changed all that for me.  Yes it took a few years for me to get all my ducks in a row.  When I turned 40,  I focused in and made personal changes.  The funny thing was that I was thinking of a whole different journey for myself, a more creative journey. That is how 4 chicks started.  But life had different plans for me.  I went back to school, I knew that I wanted to study Holistic Nutrition but with my husband traveling for work so much and having 2 small girls at home, I knew it was impossible for me to go to a campus-based university.  So I researched the best Holistic Nutrition distance learning college to help me achieve my educational goal.   Some disagreed with my choice of school.  But I believe in trusting one’s intuition and going with the flow of life and seeing where it will lead.  Many were asking what are your plans for life after college.  Truthfully, I did not have a plan at all.  I knew I wanted to help people get healthy.  I really enjoyed the learning process without all the stress of  what specific job this was leading too.  I have great faith in life and know that I’m the only one that can change my future.  I knew I was going to have obstacles along the way and was prepared to face them.  In January 2014 I finished! Where will this all lead me?  I don’t know but I’m excited to find out :-).

It still makes me very sad to think about my father.  More because he did not value his life or the consequences to others of his actions.  He did not understand that life had great plans for him (as it does for each of us).  He lived his life with the notion that ‘if you have lost it all, why even try’.

I believe that everyone is put on this earth for a reason and YES life is hard but it’s up to us to make a difference within ourselves, family, community and world.  If we stop blaming others for our challenges in our life and focus more on how to move forward in a positive and uplifting way, we really then begin to enjoy the journey.

And life is a journey, and we must learn to enjoy it and not focus so much on the final destination.

So what happens now at mile marker 2014?  I can’t wait to find out!!!!

7 Responses to “LIFE IS A JOURNEY”

  1. Vivi Barnes February 16, 2014 at 3:38 pm #

    Eva, I’m so glad you realized your dreams. In my opinion, it doesn’t matter how long it takes as long as you get there! And thank you for sharing this story with us. You’re always an inspiration! 2014 will hold great things for you, I’m sure!!

    • hostingthemuse February 16, 2014 at 5:16 pm #

      Thank you sweet friend!

  2. Christy February 16, 2014 at 3:42 pm #

    Thanks for sharing your heartfelt and inspiring story! As someone with an alcoholic father, I definitely relate. Your story hit home for me and reminded me that we have the choice to write our own story and live our own dream.

    • hostingthemuse February 16, 2014 at 5:24 pm #

      Christy Thank you! I think this was the hardest thing I have gone through with my father. I went through lots of “what if’s”. But I realize that he needed to want to change, to get help. I could not do it for him. I needed to follow my own journey in life. That is all I can control.

      • Christy February 16, 2014 at 7:31 pm #

        I cannot begin to imagine what it must have been like to lose him in such a painful way. Thank you for sharing and you really have inspired me with your amazing story.

  3. Aileenybeanie February 16, 2014 at 5:11 pm #

    Your story shares your truth. God’s honest truth is beautiful and so are you. Thank you for your courage and inspiring other people so boldly and honestly. Keep on keeping on Evita, you story gets richer with each chapter and it is still divinely unfolding. I am grateful to have you in my life to remind of good things. Love you my joyluck sister! Aileeny

    • hostingthemuse February 16, 2014 at 5:25 pm #

      You are so wonderful Aileeny beanie! I love you girlie!

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