Fear of Failure

18 Feb

I keep asking myself:  “Why do I want to go skydiving?”  Is it because of the excitement of jumping, the rush or just plain stupidity?  As I was reading my other chick’s post, I realized that my reason–even if it’s not a great reason–has to do with fear.

Don’t get me wrong; I do not get a rush out of being scared.  But I just realized that skydiving is my biggest fear.  I fear being that high.  I fear that the parachute won’t open.  I fear that I might die.  And I feel that if I could conquer this then I would be able to accomplish anything that is put before me without having the fear that I will fail at it.

In my rational mind I know that skydiving will not take that fear away.  It would help with the actual fear of being that high, and I might just enjoy it.  But it won’t help me deal with the fear of failure.

So how do I deal with this little issue that I have?

I was just reading this wonderful post from Luann Udell about Dealing With Failure  http://luannudell.wordpress.com/2011/01/21/dealing-with-failure/.

“Edison trying and discarding 423 different materials before he found one that could successfully be used as a filament in his electric light bulbs. Supposedly, he would say,  “I didn’t fail—I found  423 things that didn’t work!” In reality, I doubt he was that chipper at trial #218. I’m sure he had some  choice words.

But the important thing to remember is, it wasn’t failure. It was a process. He didn’t take each failure as a “sign” he should not continue. He took it as a challenge, an opportunity to explore new possibilities.”

So as I go out into this world, I know that YES, I will fail, but I also know that this is a process.  Who knows what great things might come out of something that I work on and fail 100 times in?

P.S.  I still want to go skydiving!

5 Responses to “Fear of Failure”

  1. pursuingthemuse February 19, 2011 at 1:54 am #

    Recently, I read an interview with Martina Navratilova, the tennis star (I mean, goddess) and she was asked what the difference was between a champion and everyone else with some basic talent. She said, ‘the willingness to fail’. I love that! Because, if we’re not willing to fail – over and over again – that means we walk away. And, if we walk away, we deprive ourselves of the chance to become a champion.

    • charmingthemuse February 19, 2011 at 1:43 pm #

      PJ, I think I’ll use that as my new mantra. “I am willing to fail. I am willing to fail over and over again.”

      • pursuingthemuse February 19, 2011 at 10:27 pm #

        Me too. It’s what makes me willing to write a sloppy copy instead of suffocating my fledgling work with my editor’s perfectionist eye. And what makes me willing to send yet another query letter.

  2. charmingthemuse February 19, 2011 at 1:42 pm #

    Eva, I never imagined this is why you keep talking about jumping. I just thought you were crazy! What a great metaphor for the ultimate overcoming of fear. But I’m still not going with you, and you can’t make me. 🙂

  3. ticklingthemuse February 22, 2011 at 2:38 am #

    Eva, I love the post, and I totally will go skydiving with you if you’d like! I have never been but it’s definitely on the list!!!!!

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